This post is about creative writing prompts for self-validation.
To start, self-validation is a tricky subject. Many people, like me in the past, have looked to others for acceptance and external validation. Basically, we won’t do things unless our peers accept it.
In more depth, we seek external validation because we want to fit in or be liked by our peers. Learning to validate yourself is hard because you will no longer need the acceptance of others. This is a skill most people don’t practice.
Self-Validation is a way to show your self-worth and self-trust. No longer needing the external validation from your peers is not easy to enforce. However, using the creative writing prompts below , you will have a foundation and an understanding of why your opinion should matter most to you.
35 Creative Writing Prompts for Self-Validation
- Who do you seek external validation from and why?
- In what areas of your life do you seek others opinions?
- What do you regularly do to fit in or gain acceptance?
- How does external validation impact your self worth?
- What do you need from others in these moments?
- Is there a lack of trust with yourself and why?
- Why wouldn’t your own judgment and opinion matter?
- What would your life look like if you knew you always had your own back?
- Why would you think your own opinion and validation is not accurate? Is that true?
- What happened in your life time that makes you doubt yourself?
- What are things that you’ve done recently that have proven you trust yourself? What can you do?
- Do you have limiting beliefs that your thoughts and opinions are not valid? Why is that?
- What are the benefits of holding onto these beliefs?
- What would it take to release these limiting beliefs?
- Why is external validation so important to you? How can you release that?
- Write down times you did things purely because you wanted to.
- Are you conscious of seeking external validation?
- Who do you seek external validation from? Why is their opinion more important?
- Do you think your opinions and feeling are important? Why or why not?
- What are the things you say to yourself when you doubt your own judgment?
- What are some ways to create trust with yourself?
- Are you aware of the things you think about yourself? Are they positive or negative?
- How can you change negative thinking? What affirmations can you tell yourself daily?
- How would you feel if you truly did the things, you purely want to do?
- What is stopping you from doing those things?
- Why are others’ opinions more important than your own?
- What would your life look like if you stopped seeking external validation?
- Were there times you took someone else’s advice and regretted it?
- How can you gain self-trust with yourself again?
- What are some fears you have with following your intuition?
- Why are you allowing those fears to control your self perception?
- Write a list of the things you love about yourself and make you unique.
- How would you feel if you followed your intuition and released the need of external validation?
- Write down some things you can do right now to build self trust.
- Write down reasons you are enough as you are right now. How can you keep this energy?
Self-Validation VS External Validation
First, Self-Validation is the practice of acknowledging and affirming your own thoughts, emotions, and experiences without need to approval of others. It is the ability to identify your feelings as valid, real and important. Self-validation helps give you the confidence to share your thoughts, opinions and feelings.
Steps to Validate Yourself:
- Be aware of your feelings – Acknowledge what you are feeling without suppressing or ignoring it.
- Notice where the feeling is coming from – Try to pinpoint why you might be feeling this way.
- Accept your feelings without Judgment – Remind yourself your emotions are always valid, real and important even if they are uncomfortable.
- Express an understanding to yourself – Use self-talk to reassure yourself. You can use affirmations to boost self-worth to do this.
- Give yourself grace – Learn to treat yourself with kindness instead of criticism.
- Take positive action – Use your feelings as information to guide healthy responses and decisions.
Furthermore, learning to practice Self-validation creates emotional independence and helps navigating through life’s challenges with a greater sense of self-trust and self-love. Using the writing prompts above will help create a solid foundation for self-validation.
On the other hand, there is external validation. External validation is the approval or affirmation received from others that reinforce one’s thoughts, opinions and feelings. This type of validation typically comes from your closest friends, family, colleagues or anyone else’s opinion you value more than your own.
However, seeking external validation is a natural human instinct. Everyone wants to be like and to fit in. External validation serves as a social connection and approval to one’s feelings of belonging and self-worth. Despite that, heavily relying on external validation can lead to self-doubt and lack of self-trust. The goal is to acknowledge and appreciate external validation without making it the primary source of our being.
Examples of External Validation:
- Social Approval – Acceptance from peers, society and family
- Verbal Affirmations – Compliments, positive feedback, and encouragement from others.
- Likes and Engagement – Approval through social media
- Praise – Acknowledgment of achievements or efforts
To conclude, using the writing prompts above will help with the balance of external validation and self-validation throughout life’s challenges. Realize that trust self-worth comes from an internal sense of validation rather than others approval.
To Finish
I hope the creative writing prompts above serve as a gateway on your journey of self-validation. No longer seeking the need of others’ opinions and purely following your own intuition is the purest way to live with an abundance mindset. Gaining self-trust and self-worth is an important milestone for developing a deeper connection within yourself and to cultivate a greater sense of inner peace.
Validate yourself. The only validation your need is your own.
~SimpliSelf ♡